Avoiding the inevitable...

Hello again all, I have been toying with what to blog about today... How does one prove a point without sometimes being controversial? In fairness, it’s easy to be controversial, the cleverness and wit comes from how one portrays the point! Sound cryptic? I know it does to me too... When one blogs, they generally want to spill the beans on their own personal journeys/experiences/mistakes etc. and how we made come backs from all of them. People are selfish remember, we all love talking about ourselves! That’s undeniable, that’s why places like the internet are an absolute dream because it creates a void where you can talk and talk without being interrupted or have anyone’s opinions to match or defend. Sounds great right but what happens if all this trigger happy typing goes array and you write something you probably shouldn’t about someone who knows someone who read the blog of someone who knows someone who read YOUR blog? That person is going to feel attacked by the internet, as if their own personal story has now been splashed on some blog without anyone’s permission. What if you decide that the best revenge on an asshole ex is to blog nasty stories about him/her? Believing you’re convincing the world that this person is the lowest of the lows and they should all follow you because that’s how YOU feel, do we really think that is going to portray you in a good light? At the end of the day, that’s what you’re trying to do... Understandably so! Here’s my thing, I am an impulsive person, and I tend to feel before I think. It’s a lovely thing at times but is my ultimate curse. There have been many times that I've typed up a blog post when angry or hurt and luckily never posted them because when I read the post the next day, I realised that by reacting in ways like that is only making you look like the idiot. It’s not only the internet; we all do impulsive and make rash decisions when hurt or angry. That will always be the case, but perhaps it takes a good few deep breaths and a word or two with someone who anchors you to realise that in fact the best thing to do is be strong and walk away. We will all learn this lesson the hard way by making the grave mistake of allowing the switch to flip and your cool plan of staying calm and collected goes straight out the window. I have typed this post as carefully as I could without bringing any of my own personal situations into it...if someone out there thinks it’s aimed at you, you're probably right but I promise I didn’t do it on purpose;) x

Realising Reality....

So I know I haven’t been very consistent recently with my blogging, it's not for any other reason than I am now a permanent employee at Woolworths in Lingerie Design. It's still all a bit surreal...it’s bizarre how certain things turn out. I lacked complete focus throughout school and Fashion College, sure I passed but my marks were never anything great. I guess I was considered a clown/rebel/average student with a social life that may have taken priority when it shouldn’t. However through the many teacher meetings, parental lectures (love you guys) nothing ever really stuck. I really wasn’t trying to be bad, it just happened naturally haha, for so long I didn’t understand why I couldn’t become more academic or increase my marks with ease. Until now! When I finished university last year, I had 2 things on my mind, Thailand and running as far away from Cape Town as I could (the reasons for that were pretty much why any girl would feel the need to run) I had vaguely thought about 2013 and immediately just assumed that I would take advantage of the British passport and go travelling, or I would go and work on the yachts, my mind even travelled to Australia to join my cousin there. However many options there were I was convinced that I was done with Cape Town. After reality hit, and hit hard, I realised that I actually needed some money to be going to all these places... luckily Thailand was a present so that was an inevitable trip over new year’s however the rest was left completely open. I decided to intern with top SA designer, Colleen Eitzen, over December holidays to make some money for my trip, not really thinking anything more of it. However after the month of working there, I woke up to the realisation that I had woken up every day at 7am over my December holidays to go to work, and I don’t remember hating it once, in fact it had become second nature. I fell in love with the people and my boss and everything that went on during the day and I loved going home knowing I had fulfilled a very productive day. After my time with Colleen Eitzen designs, I left for my trip to Thailand, I won’t go into that because that is worth a whole other post, but to say it was the best time of my life is an understatement. Everything that I was running away from, I left on a small island off Phi Phi Island, it really did cure the soul. I came back with a new love for my Cape Town and couldn’t believe I had even considered giving up on it. After working in December I realised that although taking a year off travelling etc. would have been exciting, I knew it was my "predictable" choice. That wasn’t going to be an adventure for me, my adventure would be to dive straight into a career and not just any career, my dream job of working for a big retail company. When the opportunity for an interview at Woolworths came along, I packed up everything into my little yaris and made the move back to Cape Town, I didn’t care that it was just an interview, this was my calling and I knew that it was a sign to get back to Cape Town... so within 4 days of being back in South Africa from Thailand I was hot footing it off to Cape Town. To cut it short, I was given the job as a design intern in womenswear... It all seemed to move quite smoothly from there... 7 months down the line I was being called in for a permanent position in Lingerie. My point of this post is this; No matter whom you are where you have come from or what you may or may not have done, you really are the only person that can determine your future. I know it sounds cliché and for many they have heard it time and time again, but this is coming from someone who learnt her lessons the hard way (every time) and who believed that her destiny was to be a drifter, not really focused or ambitious and I also believed that past mistakes would haunt me forever... Truthfully, they really don’t! You move on and you can become the better person, it’s completely up to you! Your support systems are important yes, but at the end of the day, the only one who’s going to give you a proper smack of reality to the face, is you! Love what you do, and you'll never work a day in your life... so true!